Responsible Parent

My oldest son is divorced.  He has been divorced for several years.  As a matter of fact he has been divorced longer than he was married.

It is interesting how most (not all) divorced women want and in most cases make a business of getting pregnant, married, in most cases having a second child and then divorcing.  After that they want to be taken care by the ex for about twenty years.  The best excuse is the welfare of the children.  Women do not care for their children and they only want money in the form of child support and if possible alimony.  Men end up resenting their children because they pay and they seldom have something to say.  This is a serious issue that has been eroding the family values in our country for decades.  No accountability whatsoever.

In the case of my son, the ex wife has over 50% of the time with her.  This was thanks to the recommendation of a “Parenting Consultant”.  Not sure what the qualifications are to become a parenting consultant.  Their actions do not appear to be logical or based on any science.  It appears to be the common case of inept people given some power.  Most airport security personnel show this syndrome.  They know they are in a position of power while at work.

The reason I am writing this blog is because last weekend their mother took my grand daughters to visit relatives in Iowa.  The trip is over four hours long from the Twin Cities.  They left Saturday returning Sunday.  Not much thought on the mother side but what can you say.  Common sense is not the most common of the senses.

Four people occupied the car.  My two granddaughters, their uncle and their mother were heading down to Iowa.  The mother was at the wheel.  Most of the trip was on interstate highways.  The mother was using her phone texting friends.  Not sure where you live but in Minnesota and Iowa it is not legal to text which driving.  She completely disregarded the law (no one was watching) and kept on texting, driving and swerving on the road.  Things got so bad that her brother took the phone from her hands and put it in his pocket.  He showed some common sense because he felt that he might be involved in a car accident caused by a woman (his sister) breaking the law.

It appears that after having to get off the car and receive verbal abuse was not enough to make him return the phone.  The girls told me that finally on Sunday he returned the phone.

So who was in danger in this situation?  Who is accountable for having my granddaughters spent time with an unfit parent?  No one.  The parenting consultant, the lawyers and judge are completely unaccountable in our society for any thing they do.  If the car would have crashed and injured someone our legal system would have blamed the mother.  That is a good start, but what happens to the parenting consultant, lawyers and judges?  Nothing!